Jerry Seinfeld

Jerry Seinfeld was apparently very picky about the women he dated. 

I learned this when my producers, Peter and Mike, started calling me Jerry Seinfeld. 

You see, we’d decided to make an EP about my dating life. I was going through a phase where I was going on a lot of dates, and it dawned on me that I had an artistic point of view on dating, on love seeking. The EP consists of 5 songs that each was written directly based on a different dialogue or series of dialogues about an actual dating and love related experience of mine. While writing these songs, I talked about everything- my experiences, my fears, the good moments, the terrible ones. This process was not for the faint of heart. 

In any case, at this particular moment, I had gone on a lot of first dates, and I just wasn’t feeling any of them. Majority of the people I went out with during this phase (and truly I would say this about most anyone I’ve ever been out with ever) were really good people, nice and kind and polite people, but for one reason or another, I just wasn’t feeling it. 

And so, I was dubbed “Jerry Seinfeld.” 

After about the third or fourth or fifth time one of them said it, I needed to set the record straight. 

“I’M NOT JERRY SEINFELD!” I exclaimed! 

And then… we all stopped… because there was the song. 

“Jerry Seinfeld” is a song about why I am not too picky, about why I am not too particular, and about why I will never settle for anything less than what feels right to me. 

One of the most profound lessons I have learned as a woman who goes on dates is to trust my instincts. I know when I should pursue something, and I know when I should walk away. More than that, I have learned that it is possible to put myself out there and meet new people and be open to them while keeping my standards, my sense of what I want and how I want to feel. 

I have learned that I am not Jerry Seinfeld

I am Shayna Leigh.